help for rape victim in San Diego?

If she is willing to go therapy that could help. In a way all you can do is love her.

Go to: http://vaonlinesupport.org/support.html & http://www.rapevictimadvocates.org/ & http://www.rape-victim-support.com/ & http://www.rainn.org/ & http://www.aftersilence.org &
http://www.pandys.org & http://www.rapecrisis.org.uk Call (USA)1 800 656 HOPE and/or People Against Rape (USA) on 1 800 877 7252. View http://www.coolnurse.com/hotline.htm (US freecalls). Some find further therapy helpful, later on. Be aware of the possibility of developing Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, as well. Flashbacks, nightmares, difficulty sleeping, and just staring blankly for long periods of time are some symptoms.

For more PTSD info, treatments, and links, see http://your-mental-health.weebly.com/q.html Consider taking a course in SELF DEFENCE (not martial arts; their styles are often inappropriate to circumstances likely to be encountered, but possibly take their course later). Try to be aware of what is going on around you, assessing potential risks and minimising them, without going overboard. For example; cross the road well beforehand, once you see someone coming towards you at night in an isolated location; see what happens. This prevents you from being surprised, and overwhelmed before being able to take any effective action, such as activating a personal alarm, using a “rape whistle”, using your automatic emergency in your cellular mobile phone, activating a flash camera in their face, or preparing to defend yourself with such weapons as you are carrying. Don’t look like an easy target; criminal types look for them to victimise.

Others said: just keep in mind that it is not your fault, there are just ****** up people out there. That is the only thing that can get you through. Just know that you are beautiful and you did not deserve it but to be strong and get past it, do not dwell on it. Just let it go and forgive the person, as hard as it is. That is the best advise I have. ~~~ Did you go to the police? They’ll usually tell you a therapist or counselor to go to. There’s something called “secondary wounding”. Hope you haven’t had to go thru it. It’s like when you try to talk to people about it and they don’t believe you or say it was your fault or say “I believe YOU believe it happened.” ie..they don’t believe it. Get some books from the library. Be careful about who you tell.. ~~~ Being a rape survivor I found the best way to deal with it was to talk about it and to find a rape survivors group and talk to them. Most big hospitals have them and if you’re in small town there are rape survivors groups on line. I know that it’s hard but you have to remember that it’s not your fault. The only person that’s to blame is the person who perpetrated the assault. Other than the death of someone you love this might be the hardest thing that you have to deal with. I know that it’s very hard but it can be done I know I’ve done it. Reach out for all the support that you can get and don’t not talk about it. You will never forget it, but you can learn to live with it and be happy again. It will take time and energy but It can be done. Good luck and if you need someone to talk to email me. ~~~ This helped me. Write a letter to the perpetrator. Start with just the facts what happened 2nd how it made you feel then last what you would like to do to him/them(you know what I mean). Put it away and take it out and read it once and awhile until it makes you so sick you can’t even read it any more. It is now time to get rid of this part of you life and move on. You can get rid of it anyway you’d like. I’m going to go to the closest spot to where it happened and burn it. I think the best part of it all is when you write what you would do to them. I hope this helps and be strong. It wasn’t your fault.

Nightmares and flashbacks are very common after a sexual assault. This is because some things that happen to you are really shocking for you and your body. What will happen is that your body and your head will return to normal but by normal I mean that you will be able to do the same things as before and think the same way as before but what happened to you will always be a memory. It will be something that will always have happened to you just like the birth of a baby, losing someone close to you, or learning something that changed the way you look at the world. What will happen is that the flashbacks and the nightmares will go over time. Changes will happen but the memory will always be there. You may still think about it but it won’t feel so big that it is the only thing you’re able to think about.

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